“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”

Elizabeth Gilbert

柴九：人生有几多个10年？

我：人生有几多个25年？

I thought of the story of the blind men and an elephant when people from my past told me that they know me.

二十载才绽放一次、一次才绽放一时辰的仙人花⋯⋯ 你到底在等谁？

After watching the movie, I think Coco Chanel is one interesting woman.

Coco Chanel’s Quotes:

1. “Fashion fades, only style remains the same.”
2. “In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.”
3. “A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.”
4. “The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”
5. “As long as you know men are like children, you know everything!”
6. “Success is often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.”
7. “How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone.”
8. “Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door.”
9. “Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.”
10. “”The best color in the whole world, is the one that looks good, on you!”
11. “A women who doesn’t wear perfume has no future.”
12. “Elegance is not the prerogative of those who have just escaped from adolescence, but of those who have already taken possession of their future.”
13. “A woman is closest to being naked when she is well dressed”
14. “If a man talks bad about all women, it usually means he was burned by one woman”
15. “I don’t understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little – if only out of politeness. And then, you never know, maybe that’s the day she has a date with destiny. And it’s best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.”
16. “Luxury must be comfortable, otherwise it is not luxury.”
17. “There is time for work, and time for love. That leaves no other time”
18. “There are people who have money and people who are rich.”
19. “I invented my life by taking for granted that everything I did not like would have an opposite, which I would like.”
20. “Elegance does not consist in putting on a new dress.”
21. “Nature gives you the face you have at twenty; it is up to you to merit the face you have at fifty”
22. “I never wanted to weigh more heavily on a man than a bird.”
23. “Fashion is made to become unfashionable.”
24. “Fashion is architecture: it is a matter of proportions.”
25. “Those who create are rare; those who cannot are numerous. Therefore, the latter are stronger.”
26. “My friends, there are no friends.”
27. “Great loves too must be endured”
28. “A style does not go out of style as long as it adapts itself to its period. When there is an incompatibility between the style and a certain state of mind, it is never the style that triumphs.”
29. “Elegance is refusal.”
30. “Since everything is in our heads, we had better not lose them.”
31. “I love luxury. And luxury lies not in richness and ornateness but in the absence of vulgarity. Vulgarity is the ugliest word in our language. I stay in the game to fight it.”
32. “Look for the woman in the dress. If there is no woman, there is no dress.”
33. “Jump out the window if you are the object of passion. Flee it if you feel it. Passion goes, boredom remains.”
34. “Some people think luxury is the opposite of poverty. It is not. It is the opposite of vulgarity.”
35. “It is the unseen, unforgettable, ultimate accessory of fashion that heralds your arrival and prolongs your departure.”
36. “I don’t know why women want any of the things men have when one the things that women have is men.”
37. “A woman has the age she deserves.”

Ah. I’ve forgotten about my blog for a few days.

I guess I’ve moved on to another stage of life where I think I’d go to the person directly if I want to express myself.

Like the hair trapped in the laminated menu – Seal the old life away.

Different people developed different ways of communication that they think work for them. We don’t have to like it or hate it. We can choose to accept or ignore it.

The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all.

- Mulan

A survey result on “what’s normal”:

1] Anything that makes us forget our true identity and our dreams and makes us only work to produce and reproduce. TRUE

2] Making rules for a war (the Geneva Convention).

3] Spending years at university and then not being able to find a job.

4] Working from nine in the morning to five in the afternoon at something that does not give us the least pleasure, so that we can retire after 30 years. DON’T HAVE TO.

5] Retiring only to discover that we have no more energy to enjoy life, and then dying of boredom after a few years. THINK SO.

6] Using Botox. DON’T KNOW

7] Trying to be financially successful instead of seeking happiness. Note:Financially successful = no financial worry = less worries = happier. No?

8] Ridiculing those who seek happiness instead of money by calling them “people with no ambition”. TRUE

9] Comparing objects like cars, houses and clothes, and defining life according to these comparisons instead of really trying to find out the true reason for being alive. TRUE

10] Not talking to strangers. Saying nasty things about our neighbors. TRUE

11] Thinking that parents are always right. FALSE

12] Getting married, having children and staying together even though the love has gone, claiming that it’s for the sake of the children (who do not seem to be listening to the constant arguments). TRUE

12ª] Criticizing everybody who tries to be different. TRUE

14] Waking up with a hysterical alarm-clock at the bedside. WHAT’S WITH THAT?

15] Believing absolutely everything that is printed. TRUE

16] Wearing a piece of colored cloth wrapped around the neck for no apparent reason and known by the pompous name “necktie”. TRUE

17] Never asking direct questions, even though the other person understands what you want to know. TRUE

18] Keeping a smile on your face when you really want to cry. And feeling sorry for those who show their own feelings. TRUE

19] Thinking that art is worth a fortune, or else that it is worth absolutely nothing. VERY TRUE

20] Always despising what was easily gained, because the “necessary sacrifice” – and therefore also the required qualities – are missing. TRUE

21] Following fashion, even though it all looks ridiculous and uncomfortable. FOR SOME PEOPLE, TRUE

22] Being convinced that all the famous people have tons of money saved up. TRUE

23] Investing a lot in exterior beauty and paying little attention to interior beauty. TRUE

24] Using all possible means to show that even though you are a normal person, you are infinitely superior to other human beings. TRUE

25] In any kind of public transport, never looking straight into the eyes of the other passengers, as this may be taken for attempting to seduce them. TRUE

26] When you enter an elevator, looking straight at the door and pretending you are the only person inside, however crowded it may be. TRUE

27] Never laughing out loud in a restaurant, no matter how funny the story is. NO I DO LAUGH

28] In the Northern hemisphere, always wearing the clothes that match the season of the year: short sleeves in springtime (however cold it may be) and a woolen jacket in the fall (no matter how warm it is).

29] In the Southern hemisphere, decorating the Christmas tree with cotton wool, even though winter has nothing to do with the birth of Christ.

30] As you grow older, thinking you are the wisest man in the world, even though not always do you have enough life experience to know what is wrong. TRUE

31] Going to a charity event and thinking that in this way you have collaborated enough to put an end to all the social inequalities in the world. TRUE

32] Eating three times a day, even if you’re not hungry. NEVER THOUGHT OF IT BUT TRUE

33] Believing that the others are always better at everything: they are better-looking, more resourceful, richer and more intelligent. Since it’s very risky to venture beyond your own limits, it’s better to do nothing. TRUE

34] Using the car as a way to feel powerful and in control of the world. TRUE

35] Using foul language in traffic. WHAT’S WRONG?

36] Thinking that everything your child does wrong is the fault of the company he or she is keeping. TRUE

37] Marrying the first person who offers you a position in society. Love can wait. NOT SURE

38] Always saying “I tried”, even though you haven’t tried at all. FALSE

39] Putting off doing the most interesting things in life until you no longer have the strength to do them. TRUE

40] Avoiding depression with massive daily doses of television programs. FALSE

41] Believing that it is possible to be sure of everything you have won. HUH?

42] Thinking that women don’t like football and that men don’t like interior decoration. FALSE. I DON’T LIKE FOOTBALL DAMNIT

43] Blaming the government for everything bad that happens. TRUE

44] Being convinced that being a good, decent and respectful person means that the others will find you weak, vulnerable and easy to manipulate. TRUE

45] Being convinced that aggressiveness and discourtesy in treating others are signs of a powerful personality. TRUE

46] Being afraid of fibroscopy (men) and childbirth (women).

47] And finally, thinking that your religion is the sole proprietor of the absolute truth, the most important, the best, and that the other human beings in this immense planet who believe in any other manifestation of God are condemned to the fires of hell. SOME PEOPLE.

Everything which is done in the present, affects the future by consequence, and the past by redemption